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Quit Blaming Your Ex
Here’s how to quit the blame game when it comes to an unhealthy lifestyle.
We have all done it — we’ve played the blame game. Although we are usually right, the result of the blame game is always our loss, regardless of whether we are right or not. Why? Whenever we blame someone or something for whatever has happened, we give power to those people or circumstances.
I see it in my coaching. In our very first sessions, when I talk to my new clients, roughly four out of five of them will blame someone else for their unhealthy eating habits, nonexistent workouts, and poor physical shape.
That is precisely what happened during my very first session with a new client this week. She said the reason why she had neglected her body was because of her husband’s cheating. Two years had passed since they divorced, and my client was ready for the change. I asked her, “When was the last time you spoke to your ex?” It turned out she hadn’t actually seen him or spoken to him for the past two years, yet she still blamed him for her weight gain and bodily health issues.
Therefore, here is the most important thing to do once you have decided to change your unhealthy lifestyle into a healthy one. You must divorce yourself from the blame game. You must take 100% responsibility for your own daily choices and decisions. You must not blame your ex, your…
